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What to Do if You're Experiencing Harassment at Work

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You deserve to work in an environment where you feel safe, respected, and valued. Workplace harassment affects countless women from the restaurant floor to the car dealership showroom, from busy medical and dental offices, and beyond. Here’s what to do about it.

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What Does Harassment in the Workplace Look Like?

Harassment can take many forms, and it's not always as obvious as what we see in movies. Sometimes, it's subtle and persistent, making you question whether you're overreacting. Trust yourself—if what you’re experiencing makes you uncomfortable, it's worth addressing.

Sexual harassment might look like:

  • A restaurant manager who consistently schedules you for late shifts and makes comments about your appearance when customers aren't around
  • A car dealership owner who touches your shoulder unnecessarily or makes crude jokes that everyone else seems to laugh off
  • A doctor, dentist, or medical practitioner who makes inappropriate comments about your body
  • A co-worker who sends suggestive text messages after work hours

Harassment isn't limited to sexual behavior, either. It can include persistent discriminatory remarks about your gender, creating a hostile work environment through intimidation, or retaliating against you for refusing unwanted advances.

Maybe your office supervisor consistently undermines your contributions in meetings after you declined their dinner invitation. Perhaps a dental practice owner makes disparaging comments about women's capabilities while expecting you to tolerate it as "just how he is."

The key is this: if someone's behavior toward you is unwelcome, persistent, and affects your ability to do your job or feel comfortable at work, it may be harassment. You don't need to have explicitly said "no" for behavior to be inappropriate, and you don't need to prove intent on their part.

Steps to Take If You Are Feeling Harassed at Work

When harassment begins, your safety and well-being are the priority. Start documenting everything immediately. 

  • Write down dates, times, locations, and exactly what happened. Include who was present and how the incident made you feel. This documentation will become invaluable evidence if you decide to pursue formal action.
  • From there, create a secure record that your employer cannot access. Use your personal phone or email account, not company devices. Take photos of any physical evidence, save screenshots of inappropriate messages, and back up everything in multiple locations. If a coworker witnessed inappropriate behavior, note their name and what they observed.

As you navigate this process, be sure to reach out to someone you trust outside of work, like a therapist or psychologist. Keep documents of the costs you incur for this external help as well. Having emotional support during this time is crucial, and having someone who can corroborate your emotional state can be important if your case progresses.

How to Make It Known You Are Uncomfortable

You have the right to set boundaries at work, and there are several ways to communicate that someone's behavior is unwelcome. The approach you choose depends on your comfort level, your workplace dynamics, and the severity of the situation.

  • Direct communication can be effective when you feel safe doing so. A clear statement like "I'm not comfortable with that comment" or "Please don't touch me" establishes a boundary. However, understand that you are not required to confront your harasser directly, especially if you fear retaliation or escalation.
  • Sometimes, a written approach feels safer. An email saying, "I want to follow up on our conversation earlier. I'm not comfortable with personal comments about my appearance, and I'd appreciate it if we could keep our interactions professional" creates a paper trail while setting clear expectations.

Personal records are valuable, but can be more powerful when paired with recorded communications with HR. Make sure you keep copies of all communications in a secure location that is not on company-owned devices.

Review Your Company's HR Process About Filing a Complaint

Most employers are required to have harassment policies, but these policies vary significantly in quality, depth, and enforcement. Request a copy of your employee handbook or policy manual. Many companies have these available online or through HR.

Read the policy carefully and note the specific steps required for reporting. Some companies require you to report to your direct supervisor first, while others allow you to go directly to HR. Pay attention to timeframes—some policies require reporting within a certain number of days.

However, approach internal reporting with caution and strategic thinking. While following company protocol might seem like the right first step, remember that HR departments exist primarily to protect the company from liability, not to protect you. They may try to minimize the situation, pressure you to accept inadequate solutions, or even retaliate against you for reporting.

A good rule of thumb is to consult with an employment attorney before filing an internal complaint. They can help you understand your rights, evaluate the strength of your case, and advise you on the best timing for internal reporting. Sometimes it's strategically better to file with external agencies first.

When to Escalate to Legal Action

Understanding when to pursue legal action requires balancing several factors, but timing is often critical. The sooner you consult with an attorney, the better they can help you preserve evidence and navigate the process strategically.

Consider legal action when internal complaints are ignored, inadequately addressed, or result in retaliation against you. If your employer promises to investigate but takes no meaningful action, or if the harassment continues after you've reported it, legal intervention may be necessary.

Retaliation is itself unlawful and often strengthens your case significantly. This might include being demoted, having your hours reduced, being excluded from meetings or opportunities, or facing increased scrutiny of your work performance after filing a complaint.

Financial considerations matter too. If harassment has caused you to miss work, seek medical treatment, or consider leaving your job, legal action might help recover these losses.

In some cases, settlements can be substantial enough to provide long-term financial security, giving you the freedom to leave the hostile environment and pursue other opportunities without financial stress.

Stop Experiencing Harassment at Work

Taking action against workplace harassment requires courage, but you're not powerless in this situation. Every step you take to document incidents, set boundaries, and seek support builds your case and protects future women who might face similar treatment.

The path forward isn't always easy, but experienced legal professionals understand the complexities of these cases and can guide you through each step. Many women have successfully challenged workplace harassment and secured settlements that provided both justice and financial security. Some have won cases that allowed them to pursue new career paths without the financial pressure of immediately finding another job.


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