You know that uncomfortable feeling in your stomach when a colleague makes an inappropriate comment. You recognize the unease when someone stands too close or sends unwelcome messages. Trust your instincts—they're telling you something important.
Recognizing workplace sexual harassment is the first step toward stopping it. Knowledge is power, and understanding what constitutes harassment gives you the tools to protect yourself and take action.
Harassment often starts subtly and escalates over time, which is why it's important to identify problematic behavior early and distinguish it from normal workplace interactions.
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Under federal, New Jersey, and New York laws, workplace sexual harassment falls into two primary categories, both of which are serious and legally actionable. These forms can occur simultaneously and affect people of all genders across different organizational levels.
Both forms exist on a severity spectrum, ranging from inappropriate comments to assault. Remember that harassment can happen between people at any level—supervisors targeting employees, colleagues harassing peers, or colleagues harassing peers followed by inaction or retaliation by the employer.
Let’s look at each category in more detail.
Quid pro quo sexual harassment represents a clear abuse of workplace power that no one should tolerate. This occurs when someone with authority over your employment makes sexual demands tied to job benefits like promotions, raises, favorable assignments, or job security.
Sometimes these demands are explicit: "Sleep with me or you're fired," or "Go out with me if you want that promotion." More often, they're implicit suggestions, implications, or creating conditions where sexual compliance seems required for career advancement.
Watch for evidence indicators, such as:
The key characteristic of quid pro quo sexual harassment is that someone with power over employment decisions uses that authority inappropriately.
Unlike hostile work environment harassment, quid pro quo harassment doesn't require repeated behavior to be legally actionable—a single incident can be enough.
A hostile work environment develops when severe or pervasive sexual conduct interferes with your work performance or creates an intimidating workplace atmosphere. Courts look at the totality of circumstances and patterns of behavior over time rather than isolated incidents.
Signs of a hostile work environment include:
The law asks whether a reasonable person would find the environment hostile. If the cumulative effect of "smaller" incidents makes it difficult for you to do your job or creates significant distress, you may have grounds for a harassment claim.
Verbal sexual harassment encompasses various forms of unwelcome sexual communication. The impact on you matters more than the speaker's claimed intent. Common examples include:
Remember that persistent questioning about your dating life, sexual history, or relationships can constitute harassment, especially when it continues after you've indicated discomfort or asked the harasser to stop.
Non-verbal harassment can be just as intimidating and harmful as verbal harassment. This type of behavior creates hostile environments through visual and physical actions rather than words.
These behaviors create hostile environments and can escalate to more serious forms of harassment.
Any unwanted physical contact in the workplace can constitute sexual harassment. Physical harassment is particularly serious because it involves direct violation of your personal space and bodily autonomy.
Trust your instincts about what feels wrong. If someone's physical behavior makes you uncomfortable, that discomfort is valid regardless of their claimed intentions.
You have the right to work in an environment free from sexual harassment, and you have options for addressing inappropriate behavior. Ensure your immediate safety by removing yourself from dangerous situations. Your safety comes first, always. From there, take action.
Continue documenting your company's response, any retaliation, and ongoing incidents. This information helps protect your rights and can be valuable if you need to take further action.
Recognizing what sexual harassment is—and isn’t—is the crucial first step toward stopping it. Your experiences and perceptions are valid—trust yourself when something feels wrong. No one deserves to work in a hostile environment, and you have every right to speak up and seek help.
By understanding what constitutes harassment and knowing your options, you're taking control of your situation and creating positive change for yourself and other women in your workplace.
Remember that seeking help isn't just about protecting yourself—it's about creating safer workplaces for everyone. By working with Restore Law, you can get support along the way.
You have the power to change your situation. Through legal action, options exist to address harassment and protect your rights. Don't let fear or uncertainty prevent you from taking steps to create the respectful workplace environment you deserve. Restore Law can help you navigate this difficult process.
Your voice matters, your experiences are valid, and help is available. Take that first step—your future self will thank you.
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